Ups and Downs

[Dia]

Well, it sounds to me like you *are* jealous of GF. That's also understandable given the sitch. Have you ever admitted she's right on that? And yeah, there's a risk there b/c she could go off on an "I knew it!" tirade, so it will depend on when and how you do it.

example: W, I've been thinking, and you're right. I am jealous of GF. I *do* want you to have friends and an active, healthy social life. If I've stood in the way of that before, I'm sorry. I want more time and affection than I'm getting, so it hurts me when I see you spending so much time with others. It's not fair for me to blame GF for that, so I'm sorry for that, too.

You need to be very calm, even thoughtful, when you say this.

Also, it's *not* fair for you to blame GF, even though it's entirely natural for you to do so. Your upset should be with your W (which it is).