But in all humility I have to get over this and move on. I'll nurse my wounded pride and my injured sense of fairness. I just wish people would realize that their biases, innocent as they might seem, can still cause harm.
OK, I'm sorry you had to go through that too, but I think if you do just continue your usual efforts to be a loving, involved dad, that at some point they'll realize the truth. And if they don't, well does it really matter, what they think of you? It matters that you and your boys know you're a good dad I think, but that's it. I think my only concern would be if they are keeping some info from you and just giving to your XW, but then I would just address that issue and say that as you are an involved parent, you think it's best for the boys to have both parents involved. And then if they don't keep you informed after that work your way up the chain: vice-principal to principal to school board...
And re: the having OM in the same hotel room (you think she would have him share with your boys?). That would be horrible. You know my pastor has offered to have some of the Ls from my church help me out if needed (I have my own though), and I wonder if your church would help out in a case like that? That is so against our churches teachings that they would probably be thrilled to help if you find out that happened. I mean your W doesn't have tons of money to fight a legal battle either does she, and could just be a letter or a few hours work for the L?
