I made no reply to the aforementioned email. Monday, H sent me a curt, formal, business email. I have noticed that when I don't reply to his emails, (although none is required), I then get a curt, business, email.
I replied with the needed info and a couple short light sentences, (dogs, weather). He sent an upbeat reply giving me helpful suggestions re: the dogs.
This time, he also told me about an event which did not go so fabulously. He said, "maybe if you had been there it would have gone better because you would have . . .". I wanted to choke him. . I was thinking, yeah, if I had been there a whole lot of things would have gone differently. But I don't want him to miss the practical things I do for him, I want him to miss me.
Never before have I found myself in sort of a 'mothering' role in a relationships. Maybe that's because despite his brilliance in his field, my H has great difficulty handling many mundane tasks. I really got sucked in to handling too much of that for him.
He mentioned how much trouble he is having making travel arrangements over there and that he didn't know if he could change his ticket. I always make the travel reservations for him. I said nothing. He can ask dream girl to help him.
From reading so many situations here, I get a sense that often the WAS keeps contact with the LBS re: "homey" things. I wonder if that gives them some sense of security which makes it easier for them to be with "shiny new person"? I think that might be the case with my H. Maybe I should have thanked him for the dog suggestions, but I didn't. I didn't email to ask him about his dr. visit either. I figure that's what mommy/wife does.
I got the skinny jeans. Tonight I am going with my ex-husband to an event where I expect to see some mutual friends of me & H, including one of his best friends. In response to any questions re: H, I guess I'll keep it brief and vague, e.g. "We're taking some time apart, so I haven't talked with him much." I have been friends with my ex for years and unfortunately, my H never seemed to be much bothered by our friendship so I don't know that I will get any jealousy leverage if the grapevine reports my activities.
. I was thinking, yeah, if I had been there a whole lot of things would have gone differently. But I don't want him to miss the practical things I do for him, I want him to miss 
