How do you agree when someone is being selfish about keeping your child away from you. Esp when it is in the court order to have her.
I would treat this as a boundary type issue. "My D is important to me and I value the time I am entitled to spend with her."
If your ex pushes back on this, I would tell her "I'm sorry you feel that way, but this is not a debatable issue. I value my time with D, and I think it is important for D to have both of us showing her love, attention and guidance. I would prefer to work out an agreement amoung us. But, if that's not possible, I have no choice but to seek that right another way." Don't be emotional or threatening. Be firm, polite and all business.
Then, if she tests you, follow through.
Important thing is not to make this about HER. Use "I" statements, not "YOU" statements. She will be less likely to get defensive if you make this about you, not her.
You keep talking about statements your ex has made about not trusting you and you going back on your word. What is she talking about? FYI, none of us here are perfect, or we wouldn't be here, would we?
