We are still sleeping in the same bed. There is just no physical contact except a touch every 3 or so days. It does not feel like a marriage, it feels like a living arrangement.

I do not want to do these 180's, I can just tell she does not want any physical contact so i don't touch her and i do not say i love you because I get the half hearted "Love you too" back.

The other day i did ask her if I still had a chance with her and she said, "Of course you do (i know, pursuig, right?). It just seems to me that if she wants to work things out like she has said she does, she would make some effort at reconciliation instead of keeping the distance between us.

Thanks for the directness. I don't want to complain and pout. It just seems that one minute I am strong, the next I am angry and the next I am hurt and depressed. I hate the roller coaster of emotions.

I don't think there is anyone else, I just can't understand how she can be so totally detached from me and it does not seem to bother her a bit. It feels that I mean nothing to her.