So much going on, slow down and breathe! In trying to catch up I would agree with what Coach says about talking to your H and editing the email. I would also edit it down to a few sentences, after a while he probably isn't listening/reading anymore and misses most of what you are saying.
I agree with others that you don't have to apologize for what you did, the pt of focus is the state of finances and what to do about it now. If you/he wants to focus on your lying - save that for another convo b/c it will detract from what needs to be done now. Priorities. Lying isn't good - but focusing on it will not help to address the pressing issue of how are we going to live.
