I look thru your sitch when I have time. Going dark is so hard. Getting any kind of response or contact makes you want to smile and cry. Ive made more than one mistake on the contact thing. It is so important to stay "detached" and act happy. Hard for me because I wear my heart on my sleeve. Anger and resentment are difficult to keep down. Some days its easier than others. Detachment does take time. Faking it IS painful, you have to stay busy. I have found that when Im busy taking care of myself, or my pets ( I have no children) I think of him less and it helps. The times when your not busy is the hardest. GALing was easy for me to do given my sitch, but even then , it is painful sometimes. You're not alone in working thru what seems like a minefield.
