Just to add, I am not expecting a pull back this time, I really don't think it will happen.
One thing H raised last night was that me being mysterious drove him mad and is what led him to the conclusion that I was having an affair also my upbeat attitude did not help either it was driving him away. The only 180 I adopted that actually was positive was becoming more relaxed.
Now my H is a rarity as regards the 180's having a reverse effect on him but I think it just highlights how important it is to really be careful to make sure that any 180's you introduce are monitored carefully and that you don't go in to hard or fast and as soon as you sense any problems back it off. I think the DR book highlights this and it is sooooo important.
