So, I've left her alone this week and she's been the one contacting me. She thanked me for letting her have time alone and I've had her tell me she misses me a few times this week. Today, she talked about dinner tonight, but I'm not sure whether or not we'll do it. If not, I'll most likely see her on Saturday or Sunday.
Very good. THAT is the way to draw a woman to you. You have to remember no matter what women say is that they are much happier when doing the chasing. (which you are now seeing)
Stay backed off like this. Not in a mean way, but a tad more distant. Don't fear telling her you have other plans. You HAVE to get her to be curious of why YOUR change in attitude. You need HER to feel that it is YOU that is slowing things down, and it is YOU that is examining HER behavior to see if this si what YOU want in a relationship with a woman. (DO you want one that has such a hard time trusting and committing?)(which are excuses telling you that she doesn't like you enough and is wating to see if anything better comes down the pike
If and when she does ask you what is up with you then you just fluff it off..."nothing, just been busy, or nothing just a lot on my mind"
You make HER come toward you and YOU stay backed off an equal distance that she has been to you.
THAT is how the man who has success with women do it. The more you keep showing you are a man who will hang in there to TRY and win her love instead of a man who shows her that if she can't reciprocate or move forward decides heis worth more and better, then you are letting HER control the relationship and timing.
Stay backed off. Go out and pursue other interests WITHOUT her. Call her less and less. When she wants to talk about the relationship duck and dodge those talks. This will move her attitude toward chasing and pursuing you more. If not, then so be it, you are wasting your time with a woman who doesn't like you in the right way.
Remember. When a woman likes you in the right way she WILL make it easy for you. She will WANT you to know that she likes you and would not do the things this one has been doing to you. .(why? because she doesn't WANT to lose you by giving you the wrong signals.) Don't get into the "nice guy" trap. It doesn't work to try to be the nice guy and the friend hoping that being that way will get her to like you more.
Don't take this to the extreme and think that you can never call her to ask her out. MODERATION and common sense. If she doesn't move toward you ,then do NOT move toward her. Stay an equal distance from her as she has been toward you. Don't tell her how you feel about her.
