Yes, mindfull, the girls are always on my mind. They are scarred the most. I take away a great deal with this because I can use it to grow. Their pain is not their fault. D(13) thinks she's ugly which kills me. I now tell her she's beautiful every day. Right now I can't be there every day so I call every night at the same time. I send them emails with cool and fun things I find online.

We have no kids together. I had a vasectomy a few years into our relationship, knowing that I didn't need biological kids. They were and are MY KIDS.

I'm less angry, judging with them now and more open to hear what they are telling me. W likes this, but I know I can do more.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)