FRANK!! WTH? & OMG! what is the story with d6's health problems? I mean stress aside, what is the underlying dx? Does she have other med problems? That itself just sucks out the wind of me, as a mom.
D12 had a fever over 105'F a month ago (verified at the hospital, and I bought a new thermometer b/c I could not believe she was still living & talking -and being sarcastic...guess humor is the last sense to go??) ANYHOW, ALL other activity stops...
THE WORLD stops when your kids are really sick (or having a seizure!) OMG, no fever and then a seizure? WTH? Seriously Frank, when I read your post I just put my hand to my mouth and prayed/cussed, if you know what I mean...
Yeah, I took a few breaths...I'm calmer now so YOU don't have to comfort me.
SO, what is all of this? Weren't there tests done before? Inconclusive? Have you ruled out anything like the most horrible stuff at least?
My dad had epilepsy w/grand mal seizures, and it was a really tough thing to watch him have a seizure when we were little. But once we knew what to do for him AND that he'd recover, AND that it was not contagious, we were usually fine. (Hey, we were little kids, and we were freaked at first. Thought he was dying.)
Just seeing a seizure in a parent, much less your child, is NOT easy. (Dad's seizures ended in his 40's, fwiw, but it's a poorly understood disorder and in his time, there was also a lot of shame in it. Can't explain).
So forget stbxw's behavior/words now, unless they relate to d....and focus on d6...She's a sweetheart in your photos. She must be confused and scared. Does SHE understand what is going on and does she get a warning or "aura" as my dad did? He'd get several seconds and then he'd know he was having one and he could pull over the car, lay down, etc.
And as for mil...well, I'm sure she cares about d6 and you DO have to "put all things aside" at moments like this. You KNOW that your words will be embedded in someone's mind, for better or worse, at times like this, so be careful how you say everything. Besides, custodial issues remain somewhat unresolved now so be careful and express only your concerns for d6 at ALL times, (esp with witnesses...)
Oh, shoot. Screw all that. HUGS to you Frank, we're all pulling for you to get through this and for your d to be well soon. And I pray you get some answers about her dx so you can plan and treat and take care of your baby girl. And that you feel our support coming at you! Take care of your baby girl and son and yourself...
For now, there is clarity. Savor it, and the support you are being sent.
((( j )))
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