Originally Posted By: SpyBunny
I forgot to ask- does anyone have any ideas on the best time to tell H that I'm signing the lease.



When you are moved in & with good deadbolt locks on the door.. with him having no idea where it is.

Call him from your new cell phone with the number blocked (*67) or even better from a payphone.

Personally, I would NOT under any circumstances be alone in a room with him while telling him the news or afterwards...

but that may just be based on my bad experience of when I told my StBxH that I was done & moving out

Listen to your gut.. it's trying to tell you something...


please enlist the help of family & friends & let them know your plans.. this is when you are most vulnerable emotionally & physically

Breakaway had a list at one point in time about what an emotional vampire will do (I think she may have posted it on lost-in-iowa's thread...

all the promises they will make.. to get you back under their control..

you are vulnerable because you WANT to believe they will change & be different this time...

changes of his magntitude will take time & professional help remember that.. be gentle with yourself in making decisions.


Peace
My prayers will be with you.

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