H showed up again - we comprimised and gave up our Friday night dinners - just for this week (comprimise is a 180 - usually we fight) and yet H swung by to see S5 and to do a few computer things. H had a stressful day but did not yell at us. Seems the old man who hit H's car is denying there was an accident at all and refusing to pay. Usually H would take out his stress on me but didn't.
I was distant and more aloof than usual - because H is looking for a "new apt" tomorrow and I"m just fed up with all this limbo - like why doesn't he just move back he is spending all our savings on that dumb apt - but I have done enough DB to know he has to choose on his own time if and or when he wants to come back.
My 180- instead of fighting with him about the sitch - or pressuring, I just kept aloof. H asked "what's wrong - should I keep my distance?" I just said I was tired and worried about money. Besides that, all I can say is he noticed my aloofness. Even came back into the house "because he forgot something" after leaving - something he never does.
He prefers to upset the apple cart and leave screaming and with me trying to resolve things as he's storming out. I'd say I did a good 180 - I cut him off this time. This time, H even came back. He must have been wondering why I just didn't give a darn any more.
