I just got caught up on your thread...I've been gone for a while. It sounds like your health has improved, even if only a little bit, which is good news.
Your H is acting like an immature SOB. It's so hard to know what he is really thinking. They live in their own little fantasy world which consists of denial and rationalization. We can't make sense of it because it doesn't make sense...it's not REAL!
IMO you've been handling things quite well. You may want to be a little more distant, more detached. It sounds to me like he still wants some kind of connection to you but I think it may only be to make himself feel better. You are in no way obligated to make him feel better about anything. I'm not saying you are but by responding to him and saying things like "I'm fine, ty" relieves him of some guilt (at least I think it does). Next time take longer to respond, if at all. Let him sweat or at the very least, wonder a little.
Continue to take care of yourself and keep busy. Although it may not seem like it, you've come a long way.
Me: 39 H: 39 S: 15 M: 18 years Bomb: 6/3/09 H moved out: 10/15/09 H moved back:5/30/10
