ok.. finally talked with the ex this afternoon and that is a milestone for sure. She was still very angry saying I was just doing what was best for me. I am selfish and just try to take advantage of her and D. Says she already had plans and that i needed to stop thinking about myself. I just Validated as much as possible. She said I always lied and tried to hide stuff from her. I tried to explain that is what she wanted was to not talk so I was merely honoring that. I told her I just try to be a better me and do the best I can to understand where she is and be supportive of her and D.
She is like "I don't believe anything you say". "You are not sincere about anything or any of what your saying". "I go by action and everything you say you go back on".
I asked her what I went back on and she was saying the attorneys. Saying I did not want to go through them and wanted to not keep doing that, then she would get something back from the atty. Tried to explain that I don't want to go thru the atty, but sometimes I felt like I had no other choice.
I also mentioned to her that I just try to make the best choices I can when I have to make them. I may not have always done that, but I tried to take all into consideration and make the best decision at that time.
What do you do? I was supposed to have my D this weekend and sometimes feel like she just did what she wanted to do. I try to take the higher ground, but I feel like I will always be the one having to do that. Not her. Will she ever say I'm sorry? Will she ever try to be polite? Will she ever try to do something remotely nice?
