Yes, Amy. I know strategies are bad. I feel that in my gut but the urge to get "the goal" sometimes gets so strong! I always thought I was a smart guy but this is teaching me how dumb I really am. Not a bad thing, but realizing that clever solutions don't save the day and that I have A LOT to learn about Rs and myself.

Won't wuss out at the doctor's. Tend to be a stand up guy when situations arise. The fix is being a stand up guy every day.

And that rug isn't the issue. I pulled it out from under her a few times. The issue is love, darn my sappy soul. I just need to keep that in mind.

Thanks.


~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)