I totally understand what you are going through. Going dark isn't about loosing total contact with ur w its about detaching as much as possible and waiting for her to initiate contact.
That is the hardest part.
As for the grass being greener....ain't that the truth! it sucks even more when you have an enabler telling her its ok to wander cuz after all its her life.
Even tho it is her life, when kids and marriage are involved there is still more to it that just your life.
