What does it mean when every time my WAW starts a conversation about our R, she always asks about what my parents think of her. Indeed, it is the only thing about our R she talks about. She has / had a very good relationship with my parents, and has always thought highly of them. But my WAW is very concerned with what they think of her now.
Before I joined this site, I told her everything - how they were compassionate about her illness at first, but that now they are angry with her.
I did not tell her that they advise me to walk away, and that my wife should stop being silly and sort herself out.
I told her that I am not concerned with their thoughts on what is happening, as they will only tell me what they think to make my situation easier. But this doesn't seem to have cut any ice.
Last week my WAW said that they must hate her. I told her that this isn't true and that next time she meets them everything will be fine. This did not cut any ice either - she will only think her own negative thoughts, as you would expect.
Tonight, we spoke about the banal things in life for about an hour. In the last 5 mins before she was being picked up by her EA, she asked what my parents had said recently.
I told her the truth in that I hadn't spoken to them in the past week - (this is up-to the last time my WAW asked about them.)
MY WAW says that I must have spoken to them, and that I am not telling her the truth. Again I reassured her that they are compassionate about her, and that everything will be fine with them. I don't think she believes me.
Why is the opinion of my parents important to her? Why is it the only thing that she wants to talk about. Is she thinking that she will meet them again..? Is it a block to her returning? How do I best answer her questions without seeming to be evasive? What is the best answer to the 'parent' questions?
Any help please.
Regards, Gyn.
Cause all of the stars, Have faded away, Just try not to worry, You'll see them someday. Take what you need, And be on your way and, Stop crying your heart out.