Okay..... the details have been asked for....on Oct 21st we will have been M for 20yrs. I went to a therapist like in yr 5 to deal with issues of abuse from my parents. At about that time, i pulled from her for about a yr, immediately after our first born. Then things were great for several years when she had her first A. This was a pretty serious event. He was D his W and wanted a permanent relationship with mine. She found out that he was crazy (nutso) and without the million details that ended...but there was a lot of mud thru that. We did seek help then too. I went consistantly she went randomly. many years of trust issues and other small A some were not PA, but she moved out once and the guy that help move her into her new place and buy her furniture in now talking to her again. (I did confront him and his wife the first time. (his wife had no idea - and i don't know if she does now).
We had to girls 16-19, we both have good relationships with both. Her is better with them, but mine is not bad by any stretch...
She has agreed (tonight) to go to an art fair with me...it all seems fine....there just isn't any affection from her at all. I guess I'll keep taking care of me (working out, reading, time for me) and make sure that bad habits I had go away, and the right things get repeated, (ignoring conversation, not taking advantage of doing things with her, thanking her when it calls for it, demanding respect when deserved, not leaving things around for others to do, do what needs to be done and don't expect a round of applause for doing it, bringing her favorite cheese popcorn home, buying her favorite cookies etc....
