Leaving the Land of Insanity...

[BobbiJo]

My post above leads me to the questions I have now.

Dan stated in his "dump two for the price of one" e-mail that he was NOT seeking legal counsel. His direct quote from the email:

I will not seek legal support all that is mine is yours take what you wish.

So the question is, how do I go about doing that? Should I just type up a list (I hate the word 'demands') of things I want and give it to him to sign that he agrees? I know I can do a lot of this with my attorney but the more I have ready before I meet with my attorney, the fewer billable hours I will have to pay...

Same thing goes for a visiation schedule. Should Dan and I set/agree to one on our own and then I take that setup to my attorney?

The thing is I know that when we have done some of these things in the past, part of my hope was that facing the cold facts would slap him in the face and wake him up. Now, that is not my intent. I just want to get our affairs in order so we can move forward.

For those who have been divorced, how did you divvy up the furntiure and things? A lot of it is obvious, clothing, cds, movies, etc. And I already packed up half the dishes and cooking stuff when I took Dan's things to the storage shed. Mostly it is tools and furniture at this point. Do I have to write it down and document who takes what for the attorneys or can it be an informal agreement?

Thanks for the input.