One of the best pieces of advice from DR was (paraphrasing here, since I don't have the book handy): That thing you're doing that isn't working - stop doing it.

A change of tactics has helped me a lot. It hasn't (yet) resulted in reconciliation, but I got access to the kids.

A recognition you need to change tactics is a good thing.

Me: 35
W: 31
D10, S7, S2, S11 months
M: 11 years
Tricked into separation.
In Last Resort.

My story:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1800530#Post180053