Chapter 28 - Emergencies and winnings

[Toomanywords]

Thank you very much.

Wednesday night I went home not sure what was going to happen. I had an eviction notice but I wasn't sure if I was going to give it to him.
I didn't go to him, I waited. He started a fight - I told him if this was an innocent friendship, then show me. Show me the jokes. While showing me the jokes she sent him a text. We fought. I walked away.
He called my mom for advice, she called me to ask what I wanted. She encouraged us to talk. So I went to talk to him.

2 hours later, no resolution. From what he said - I'm not supposed to talk to anyone about any of our private lives. There is no point in us asking each other about our days, because it's always the same. He will relay any important information to me. I need to stop being so controlling and paranoid. I need to stop snooping and going behind his back. I need to let him have his friends. I don't need to worry about his health or finances.

And by me asking him to be open and honest, that means that I'm controlling him and I want to know every single detail of his life.


I explained that I'm paranoid because he's closed off and secretive. He says he's like that because of how I am.

I offered the possibility of counseling - but that would just be another person for me to tell everything to.

*at 1 point in the 2 hour discussion, he told me he was upset because he stopped at work on his day off Wednesday and they all knew what was going on. I told him #1 I didn't call his work. #2 his brother works there and either he told his brother or he talked to his mom and his mom told his brother who ran his mouth.

So after 2 hours, I handed him the eviction notice and walked away from the circle of blame. I tried to break it, and nothing worked. Everytime I tried to summarize what he wanted, he'd make a comment about how I'm controlling, or how things will never change.

I told him - he wants his single life with *some* relationship benefits. I told him to watch other people, see how the interact.


I called his mother to simply let her know that he was being evicted. She immediately defended him asking, "He can't have friends?" she asked if I wanted her to call him and I said in the most calm voice that I don't care, I was just calling to let her know he was evicted.

Yesterday morning he sent me a text that I need to apologize to this girl for messing up her week.
I forwarded her the message with a note that said BF sent this - make sure you tell him I sent this to you.


No reply.
I sent no message to BF.

When I got home, he wasn't home from work yet. I went to a Home depot do-it-herself workshop. I came home and he wasn't home.
No texts, no calls to or from either of us.

I took a shower, and he came home. I got out, dressed and went upstairs to watch tv and go to sleep. Nothing said. Didn't even look at him.



Today I had to call my cell phone provider because they are showing WAY more minutes used than should be. Turns out a number that I thought was in network, isn't yet. Well, I was asked to go over the current charges to see if there were any other phone numbers like this
(I'm with verizon, who bought alltell. SOME alltell customers are in network, most won't be added until after oct 17)
This affects calls and texts.
So I really, honestly had to look.

Sure enough - last night. After he came home from work. She sent him a message. He replied. She sent him 2 messages. He replied. She sent another message.


No idea what was said back and forth. Interesting since she specifically sent me a text saying she was changing her number and she didn't want to be his friend.


I'm just counting the days at this point because according to the court, since there was no written agreement I had to give him a 30 days notice.
I'm dark or as I thought of today - I'm adopting a laisse-faire attitude (it's french for a hands-off government approach). I thought it was appropriate.