Hey SO2 - sorry to hear you are still having such trouble with ExH. Jon is right, send the documentation of his missed visits. You aren't KEEPING ExH from baby, you just aren't bending to meet his schedule. Hey, has anyone ever told him that your time is valueable too.
Be careful about being too bubbly or telling him to have a good day. I did that for a long time and to be honest, I think he took it as me being still in love with him. Now, I'm polite, but not overly. I don't tell him to have a good day anymore. I just say goodbye.
Let him come to you. Try to mirror his attitude towards you. If he is angry, don't talk to him. If he is being nice...it's okay to be nice back.
It works so much better if I am on the same level mood wise as he is. I don't mean bad mood-wise. But, I keep the energy level as even as possible. It works.
Good luck. Have a great weekend. Glad you get to see your daughter.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him