You know that e-mail seems very defensive. Reading through it; I believe you feel you did something wrong. But if I read this right, it sounds like you were taking care of things through some difficult situations.
It also sounds like you are expecting him to get mad. Perhaps you could take the "as if" approach and assume he will be understanding? You could at least ask for his understanding. I don't know your H, so you will need to make that judgement.
I would hate for my W to say she "dreads" talking to me ever. I would hope she would feel that she could come to me with anything.
