OK. I could use some advice. My w. just called to tell me that my D5 said that she wanted Mommy and Daddy to have a nice dinner together before we become unmarried and that she would watch her little brother. It broke my heart to the point where I was speechless. Then my w. said "I am sorry I am doing this to her and to you. I hope you don't hate me." I was speechless. I didn't know what to say. So I just said I shouldn't be getting into this while I am at work. She got pissy and that ended the call.
1. What should I have said?
2. What should I do now?
1. "I understand the way you feel about me. I feel the way I do about you. I want a new marriage, but I want it to be with the mother of my children...you. If you divorce me, then we will go our separate ways. But I care deeply for you and our kids."
2. "I'm sorry I was at a loss for words. Your feelings are valid, just the timing was very painful. If you want to have dinner and/or talk about it, we can. Or if you don't, I'm ready for that too. I just want to acknowledge that I see your side."
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
