"Give it a wee bit more time. By my next forecast you can make your move"
I guess you did not like the forecast. Is stbX invited to the party tommorow? Wonder what i was doing at this time last year? Whatever it was, I am sure i am feeling much better this year.
I wish I could say the same John. But it couldnt have been possible to feel better than that - NO use looking back...!!! Damn it!
No, I didnt want to wait. Nothing will change the way things are. And he sure seems ok with my response. Of course he will be at my kid's birthday. He is the dad. I wouldnt want it any other way. K
PS This day last year I left NY. I've been thinking about it a lot lately. And I smile and feel warm fuzzies when I recall "the trip". Oh well, no use looking back...
A year really has gone quickly (last year) just in case anyone wants to look back.
I hope your son has a great birthday tomorrow. I know you'll do all you can to make the day special for your little man.
As for stbx's reaction to your e-mail, I find it to be both disappointing and very telling. It is disappointing b/c he's showing he's not able to fight for your M. It is very telling b/c it shows that he just doesn't seem to "get it."
If he can't figure out what to do, if he doesn't know what needs to be fixed, and if he can't understand what you need from him as a partner, lover, and friend, then he seems to be unfortunately lost. Very sad.
Finally, as for the experience of a year ago, I'm so glad to see that it makes you smile when you think of it. I know you have some sadness over what "could have been" but the positive is you were able to experience what it really means to love and be loved by another man. You know you are capable of so much more than stbx can give you and this experience is so positive b/c it gives you insight as to what lies ahead for you.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and move you out of the place you are in, but alas, I don't have that power. However, you'll be moving out in your own time.
The real Sunshine is starting to emerge more and more w/each passing day.
"As for stbx's reaction to your e-mail, I find it to be both disappointing and very telling. It is disappointing b/c he's showing he's not able to fight for your M. It is very telling b/c it shows that he just doesn't seem to "get it."
LOL... It is clearly just "More of the same". This has been his issue all along. My honest opinion is that his pants have not gotten hot enough yet for him to move. There is no reason for him to jump.
"If he can't figure out what to do, if he doesn't know what needs to be fixed, and if he can't understand what you need from him as a partner, lover, and friend, then he seems to be unfortunately lost. Very sad."
He knows, he understands. He just does not have a compelling reason to do anything. He has not lost anything yet. He is close (to losing something).. but he can still see "something" there. Any time is this stitch were there has been a compelling reason for him to move.. he has.
Stop reinforcing that you don't think it is gonna work. Stop sending him emails about what you need/want. Leave him with the impression he has "something to lose". It will be OK to fake it. You would be happier without him anyway.
I am embarassed that you find me "here" FG. Almost where you left me. Only with some regrets...
He is loosing/lost something. And that something is 1,71cm, 60kilos, red/brunette and smokin hot!! And I can see it in his eyes, fear is creeping in. BUT, you are right. He sees my hesitation. But everybody hesitates, pauses before the jump.
My BGF told me today she would never have him back. And she is supposed to be the "soft" one amongst us. That shocked me. What am I pondering here, really? This wasnt gonna work.
After my son's birthday, I am asking for his agreement to my proposal and sending him the signed copy. K
- NO use looking back...!!! Damn it!