Thoughts on going dark?

I was fairly distant in the R, so I can see some downsides. But we were also very close. It balanced out in a weird (unhealthy?) way.

We do talk now and it's casual, at least I try to keep it that way. I don't want to lose any progress.

Also considering an "I love you but have to set you free" letter. Tactfully worded, of course.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)