Oh, BJ you are bursting my bubble! I was logging on to brag again! Day #3 and he was mellow, sane, open. We hung out on the couch all night (last week at this time, he stayed in separate rooms all night) and was way less tense and more open to negotiating the Fri night dinner thing. H was just his old self again. The nutcase vanished for a few magic days.
I know you are right I don't want to be disappointed - but I'm feeling so good right now. I will do as you suggest = enjoy the feeling for now, but not expect anything for the future.
@Mongoose = The best way to get a lot of support and feedback here is to start your own thread. In the meantime, I will say that when you are ready, you will be doing those things FOR YOU. I know it's so painful right now when you feel the sting of the loss. Keep getting out and having those good days. When the pain hits, know that you are still somebody important and special with or without her. Keep working on loving yourself, doing what makes you happy, filling up yourself with positive activities. Eventually, you will start to turn around.