Here are things my H did that showed me where his interest was before I came back up here:
If he complimented my blouse, he'd reach out to finger the material on my sleeve near the shoulder.
If he complimented my hair, he'd reach out and touch my hair.
When going through doors, he'd hold the door and place his hand on the small of my back.
When he'd hug me goodbye, he'd press his cheek to mine, or one hand would slip up to cradle the back of my head.
When I asked him which necklace he liked better, the touched the necklace against my throat with a fingertip.
These are all really small steps, and I'm sure you can think of more.
Have had NO touching. Only times I can remember any physical contact has been if we bumped into each other or if she were handing me something.
I take that back. There have been a few, VERY few (I could count them on two fingers) where she touched my arm if telling me some funny story.
My perception is she either does not desire physical contact (and I'm not talking about sex here, but that would certainly be included in this statement as well) with me or does not know how to re-establish that.
Now, she could probably say the same thing about me. She was never one to initiate touch, hand holding, hugs. I was. Maybe she is the one female in the world who does not need that. I DO!!! Not b/c I'm a man, but b/c I'm a human being. Her going through early menopause is certainly not helping this aspect either.
So, although she does not seem to want to touch me, her tone of voice and interest in me have not been this positive sicne early on in our M.
