I'm sure that is heart wrenching. My sitch is going to tear my kids up too....they don't really know yet even though she is moving next week. I hope she can live with the guilt.
I don't know what to tell you to say. I don't know if there is a good answer for something like that. I'm sure you never thought you would hear something like that. Best of luck to you.
M 33, W 30, SD 10, D 5, S 4
Made it through the WAW, living happily together now. And I am much wiser for it!