Wife was in bed and sleeping when I got home. She (and therefore I)had another restless night due to her current illness. At one point during the night I made a simple comment like "did you not get the text or email I sent? - phone problems?" I received a snippy "I was busy then and blah blah". She was very cold last night. Not sure if it was due to feeling ill or feeling trapped in our house.
This morning when she left for work, she didn't even say bye or anything. I think her resentment and anger are building again. Must prepare myself for what will come. My normal instinct would be to call or text her today asking if something is wrong. But thanks to my DB knowledge I know that is fruitless. She will feel however she wants and I don't need to worry about it.
In Ontario, where we live, you must be separated for a year in order to divorce as simply as possible. I have come up with a plan for the next time she decides she can't live in the same house anymore. I will keep it to myself and only bring it up when required.
I am actually feeling quite calm and good today. I really am managing to separate my feelings and moods from hers. Still watching and planning, but not reacting without thinking.
