You are still over focused on that what you can't control! You discussion with the counselor shows that you think somebody can fix your wife....IT IS OUT OF ANYBODIES CONTROL! You can only control yourself...you are doing better, but nowhere near good enough. Once you realize this, the path will become easier (still not easy, but easier).
People love to get stressed about things they think the can control, put don't really. It is an Illusion we like to create. Whether it is a wayward spouse, the economy, or highway traffic. You can't control this things no matter how much you think you can. The moment you can break your life into things you can control (I.E. yourself) and things you can't control (I.E. highway traffic) and make the decision to not stress over things you can't control....you will find peace.
Off to work I go...I love my job...catch up with you later.
