For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

He was better tonight - had a better attitude and I didn't catch him letting DD get away with things. But, he was probably letting her do whatever she wanted until I got home.

I worked today and got home about 2 hours after he picked our DD up. So, tonight I didn't go anywhere. I stayed home and gave all of my attention to DD. We had so much fun - we read books and DANCED all over the house and played with musical instruments. H was on the computer and came out to sort of join us a few times. I let him watch me dancing around like a fool and singing every kid friendly song you can imagine - and I didn't care. I'm glad he saw me being silly and fun.

And I'm still doing good - haven't tried to contact him for anything except for things about DD.

I really want to get the point across that I'm done with the crap he likes to dish out to me. And I'm done wondering about what he's doing. I'm not going to ask what he's doing and then he won't have a chance to lie to me. I'm just not sure though...not having contact with him is helping me to detach, but is this the best way to go about this? Maybe it is showing that I'm fed up. But then again, according to DB I don't think I'm supposed to be being mean - am I being me? Since I caught him in a lie last weekend, I just don't have much of anything to say to him.