W not feeling well this morning. Has a cold, lost her voice. I pitched in more than usual to get the kids ready for school since I knew she wasn't feeling well.
On the way in to work, sent her an IM telling her I hoped she felt better and asking what I could to to help. Basically, all I got in response was thanks, and what she had done to cancel a meeting she had. Nothing in response to the "what can I do to help" question.
No problem. Just noting it b/c this may signal she isn't ready to let me do for her just yet. She knows I'm willing, and I will continue to help out around the house without being asked. If she doesn't want to reach out to me, that's her loss.
W apparently had a bad day today, cuz she was in a "mood" sort of when I got home. She isn't feeling well, and was stressed at having to bake cakes for her cake decorating class. Now this is a class she signed up for to enjoy. Would be like me getting stressed to go play golf.
S9 said she has been yelling at him today. Now he is 9, and has ADHD so his focus isn't the best, but come on. Both kids, especially S, seem really happy I'm home and W is at cake class - S said as much. Grilled burgers for me and the kids. Just having a good time with them.
I'm really not feeling any attraction to W right now. REALLY not.
Might need someone to talk me off the ledge later. Not liking W very much tonight. And my patience might be running low. More than that, there is that L...O...V...E thing I am becoming less and less sure about.
If the love stuff continues its goneward creep, it's certainly possible for *You* to initiate something of an R talk with Mrs. GIMA along the lines of "I don't like how I'm feeling lately. I think some X and Y might be beneficial for me."
And you can always slip her your copy of LL.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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@C-Bart - mostly anger and impatience. Can't say there's any pain, but I know what you mean.
@Dia, I just don't want to be the one to initiate that discussion, but I may have to. Admittedly, part of my not wanting to initiate that is a control/power issue. I don't want to be the one who blinks first.
GIMA~ Enjoy your kids. As much as we love our S, we have all left them or they have all left us in one way or another. It is normal for each of us to have some moments of doubt, perhaps because we really can't deal, maybe because we don't want to, possibly because we're just scared.
I will always go with my heart over my head. Some will go with their heads over their hearts. We should all go with ourselves and our kids over others.
BIM
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
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If the love stuff continues its goneward creep, it's certainly possible for *You* to initiate something of an R talk with Mrs. GIMA along the lines of "I don't like how I'm feeling lately. I think some X and Y might be beneficial for me."
And you can always slip her your copy of LL.
I have been having this exact thought recently - "Is it forbidden to initiate an R discussion to tell someone you are starting to walk away yourself"
We all say that we wish our WAS's had said something earlier when it could still have been fixed - well - what is it we wish they had said?
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
If the love stuff continues its goneward creep, it's certainly possible for *You* to initiate something of an R talk with Mrs. GIMA along the lines of "I don't like how I'm feeling lately. I think some X and Y might be beneficial for me."
And you can always slip her your copy of LL.
I have been having this exact thought recently - "Is it forbidden to initiate an R discussion to tell someone you are starting to walk away yourself"
We all say that we wish our WAS's had said something earlier when it could still have been fixed - well - what is it we wish they had said?
Thinker, your point had not occured to me. But it is a great observation.
Still, we are not supposed to initiate those types of converstions. I suppose if I find myself in this place over and over, I may have to bring it up.
And that's the rub. How do you know where the line of I don't want her anymore is so you don't let yourself cross it?
