I don't like the fact that you've not heard from him. This is out of character and you should be on your guard. Not trying to scare you, but the man is pure evil.
Promises, promises and more promises..just to make himself look good in your children's eyes. As for your daughter, I'm concerned about her...but she too, will see the light when the good Lord is ready for her to remove the rose colored glasses.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
You are right... I haven't heard from him and it is out of character for him not to try to tear me down prior to a Hearing.
I've been trying to calm my nerves by telling myself that it's because it's the first time I've been the aggressor, first time I'm taking him to court, and this is the reason I haven't heard from him.
Also, Dick is perfectly aware my attorneys have his last rather juicy email he sent to me, along with the text message response he sent to the Mother, caller her a "a-hole".... is also aware his attorney had been called looking for support, explaining he didn't send any money for August, nor money to register S.
Something I'm confused about is, after he was served, my attorney tried to give his attorney a copy of the papers, one for her and one for her to give him, and she refused to send it on to him. She said "He's been served, and anything else you want him to have, send it that same way."
It was something the Secretary/Assistant said to me, and I'm not sure if it was supposed to mean anything or not. Since he had already been served, they decided not to worry about the paperwork they had for him.
Of course my insecurities are giving me a queasy stomach, and I'm looking for anything to find re-assurance in. I'd really enjoy the thoughts of his attorney finally having enough of him, and drop him as a client.... but that would be too much to ask for.
All I know is on July 22, D told the Judge she wanted to stay here, and it was that way until days before she was to arrive, that we heard she wasn't coming. She told others it was because she would be getting a better education there, AND would save her father $14,000 if she remained there, for she would be a resident of CA.
I've had too many people confirm that she would have been able to write her own ticket to any school of her choice, because of her SAT, ACT, and the other test (can't think right now) scores. Heck, S's grades aren't near the ones D has, however, his test scores have given us plenty of feedback from WSU, which they are talking a free ride, and if he wants to join the Navy, as an Officer, he can go to OU for free, or any school with ROTC for that matter. College really wasn't an issue for them!
Yes, he is evil, and I know he wants me under his thumb, under his control, or dead.... I know this for sure, he's made it more than apparent that these are the only choices he has given me. I just hope D will see through him very quickly....
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
S stopped by (my) work on his way to Wichita with his Girlfriend. He couldn't wait to tell me his Father called him on his way to work, asked him whether he was broke or not.... then said he'd quickly remedy that, and send him a check immediately. Dick also told him he was looking at motorcycles for D..... I said "Did you mean 4 wheeler?" S said, "No, motorcycle" I took a real deep breath.... twice actually, before I could gather enough words that weren't choice.... and replied "That's interesting."
It wasn't bad enough Dick damned near killed himself on one in 2006, Dick also knows my youngest brother did nearly the same, only his brain was so swollen, the paramedics at the time, assumed he was dead, or was going to die very quickly.... He also knows my best friend's brother lost his spleen and part of his liver, and had two broken legs.... He knows I don't care for the things, especially in some place like California, and with all the traffic.
D is 16..... She hasn't even had her license for a year yet! We are all rather nervous when she drives a car..... WTH! She really didn't ride a bike all that much when she was younger! Argh!
Anyway, sounds like Dick is up to his usual routine.... making himself look good for all to see, just before the hearing.
Have you considered the fact Dick is playing mind games both with you and your son? The motorcyle comments could be a button pushing mechanism to get you riled up or make your son jealous. Don't buy into anything he's saying right now. He's doing exactly what I thought he would. His tactics are changing...he's playing one child against the other for his attention....not good.
Listen, but let it go. Your son needs to listen and let it go. He's playing head games.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Okay, and this is why I need you in my corner whispering in my ear..... I understand and now see your view or take on things, and yes, I believe you are right.
Nothing Dick does, is good.... or at least not for good reasons and always to benefit him.
Hearing Wednesday, keep your fingers crossed. I have a feeling the reason Dick's attorney wanted him served, is because he's not going to show, but she, his attorney will show for him.
Just keep your fingers crossed....
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
You're not going to believe this.... okay, where I'm concerned, you've learned that anything can and will happen AND it will benefit Dick.
Tomorrow's contempt Hearing, called off! Instead, now a phone conference.
Tomorrow D will be taken to the principal's office, alone, and then the Judge and Shannon will speak on the phone. The Judge will ask D where she wants to live. He will accept her answer and things will done.
I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers, but I have a feeling that Dick has bribed your daughter and she will want to stay w/her father. You see, I think a lot of what is going on is that he doesn't want you to not have to pay child support. He wants to even up the odds, i.e., he has one and you have one. Notice this, your son is living w/you (female) and your daughter is living w/him (male). Generally, it is the male child that wants to be w/his father. Games are in full swing and I do hope that I am very wrong about what I'm feeling.
Stay positive no matter what. You've been down this road before w/your son and it took him a while to see the light. So shall your daughter. Stand tall, hold your head up and know that you have done all that you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I have no doubt she is going to choose her Father's house over coming back here, between all the lies, guilt, Dick has installed, along with all the freedom she has, and everything he has promised her... there's no way she wants to come back now....but as soon as he knows he has her trapped, all the prettys will disappear and reality will sent in, but, it will be too late for me to do anything.
It breaks my heart....
Sometimes I think it is worse knowing what he is doing.... Denial was so much easier on me.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Your D is at an impressionable age where money talks. She's got to learn for herself the hardway that dad wiggles and worms his way out of his money promises.
It's so hard for you now, but someday she will thank you for letting her make own choices.
Try not to let Dick get under your skin now, you've got good lawyers moving you in a good direction.
Hope today went well.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
