1) You kind of sound like the "friend" that's waiting in the wings for his chance with a girl he likes.
2) She sounds like the girl that dangles several guys so that she can go on fun dates, meanwhile she holds you at bay with "just friends". Is that enough for you?
3) Your efforts are transparently an attempt to woo her back and are essentially pursuing. Imagine...your wife is cheating on you and yet you are the one chasing her..WTH? I would now give her a period of minimal contact (except her seeing and talking to the kids). Let her wonder what you are doing.
4) You are the fallback plan. Her life is imploding and she has you on a little "just in case" leash. If worse comes to worse, she can always bat her pretty eyelashes and you'll take her back.
5) Doesn't this all make you feel kind of ishy?
well everyone sorry ive been off of here for sometime but worse got worse here are the cliff notes....
I had something come up and I asked her to take the kids for a bit she refused (guess she had just got a 5 day notice for her apt)and we started fighting bad (texts then on the phone then texts phone ect) well she started this (I would be better off dead stuff) then very long conversation short she says its too late i took XXXXX waiting for it to kick in tell the kids i loved them.
well im like 2 hours away and I forword the text to her mom her mom calls yells at me for not calling the police, i tell her well how do i know? thats why i told you asap.
so I end up going to W apt. police are all over she's passed out in her bathroom on what ever she took no one can get more than a mone out of her.. the police bust her roomate for drugs and stuff then they find W's stash of perscription drugs so they haul her to the hospital then when she was awake they send me in to talk W goes nuts on me tells me to leave hates me ect
later MIL tells me W is going to another hospital for a 72 hour hold per the state
i told MIL not to tell me how or where W is anymore im now washing my hands of her crap! MIL is nice says she agrees its just crap and does not blame me one bit but keeps saying for now... huh they sure have hope IDK why
then MIL texts me two days later saying W's consoler does not want me to contact W but MIL says "we already knew that"
then yesterday W calls for the kids and daughter answered phone and all the kids talked to her (number was one with area code for the city she was sent to) kids said they are told to write letters and pictures for W then daughter says W is calling the school to talk to there consoler to say what she "has"???
IDK im confused but I think she is staying commited for awhile now getting the help she needs I hope
here are the cliff notes....
