Greek, when a M is this close to dead (as so many of these sitches are), whatever can jar the perception of the WAS is worth a shot especially when the dating and involvement with OP is NOT about attracting WAS back but about one's owns process.
For example, I met someone recently, though I never thought I would be remotely intimate with another man until I was divorced and done with H. Well, my meeting this new person opened up a whole world of new possibilities for me and when I came back from being away, I was noticeably different. I wasn't trying to make H jealous, heck I wasn't trying to do anything but the effect was that H saw me differently and I see myself differently.
I do not believe in dating to make a spouse jealous, I believe in living and experiencing and being open to the possibilities.
I also find the references to WAWs here a little demeaning and condescending. It is bloody hell dealing with WAS whether male or female.
