Wife wants best of both worlds

[ClingingToHope]

I have made it clear if we ever get a divorce there will be no friends because that will hurt me and confuse S.

I just don't know how it will play out in my sitch. We told the girls originally that we would try to be friends again and then see. But her attitude is so cold and matter-of-fact right now that I'm not sure how it will play out. This is the time of year she gets really stressed anyway so today I was actually happy to know I don't have to be around it and take the blame for it.

She has some deep-seated issues on happiness, boundaries, life fulfillment that she'll need to address some day. I read all these other situations where the WAS is going back and forth, saying I'm not sure, or I'm confused, inviting the LBS to spend time as a family. I don't see any of that in mine. Just cold hard determination to make it on her own.

In a way that's admirable, but I wonder if I'll ever be able to be her friend if she doesn't give me another chance.