I really want her to know that I don't think she should take this lightly. I just don't know how without coming across as same-old jerky me.

I do plan on calling her on the "pain will pass" comments where she tries to minimize my pain and especially that of our kids. I don't think it's okay to justify recklessness that way.

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)