It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

W called, turned into casual conversation after some business about the kids. Informed her I would be picking up the bulk of my things soon (difficult enough) and was informed that my bed had already been disassembled.

I'm being removed from my home like a tumor. It's too hard when I see her casual reaction to cutting me out to pretend it's all okay with me. She catches the tone in my voice and assumes I'm mad about her touching my things. I'm watching her murder our marriage and putting a plastic smile on my face!

Can I tell her it hurts when she says those things... without it sounding whiny?

I don't feel like being this person's friend! I want to tell her I can't take this any more and want to be kept out of everything but the kids. Either way, I'm ignoring her attempts at casual conversations from now on. I get giddy just to chat with her about stuff and then she drops a boom on me.