Help - Husband in MLC

[girlfromoz]

I know Dia, I know I have to snap out of it and I will, I just didn't see any of this coming nor expect it in my wildest dreams.

[Dia]

yep, and I'm not at all bashing you for how you're feeling. It's completely understandable.

Feel it, acknowledge it and let it go. Try not to let it drive you deeper.

Besides, I'm pretty darn sure he will come 'round. And the advice he may be getting might be coming from his prothers. Is that likely?

[girlfromoz]

No he has not contact with his brothers, hasn't had contact in many many years.

He says he isn't getting advice from friends but he is getting advice. His actions of the other day were so sudden and so unlike him that is why I do believe it is the current group of friends whose wives have just left them, because there appears to be this sudden bitterness that all women are no good so I must be no good as well.

[Dia]

Don't let it get to you. Think back to the courting days. Did he break it off and make up over and over? If he got angry about you talking to other guys, how did it play out? This will probably go similarly.

[girlfromoz]

No he never broke it off, he would just throw a fit, then take off and cool down and then come back.

[Dia]

Ok, so this fits the pattern. He's throwing a fit and he hasn't broken it off.

[girlfromoz]

I hadn't looked at that way, but he says he believes me that I am not having an A, but still chose to go.

[Dia]

Yep, and that's what he used to do, right? Throw a fit, stomp off, then come back.

So he's in the stomping off phase. Ride it out and GAL.

[girlfromoz]

I'll try to ride it out Dia, but I can't help but think that the GALing is what got me where I am now, this is what caused him to think I was having an A.

[Lotus]

Forgive the intrusion, I really don't know what is going on. But I always suspect that the person making accusations is doing so because he is trying to hide that he is doing those same things. So, if someone were to accuse me of stealing, I would suspect him of stealing. I don't know why this is, but I believe that people project their own thoughts onto others. I hope that this thought doesn't make you even more unhappy than you are right now.