But I have faith in God that my beloved darling W will come to her senses at some point and all of this will be resolved.
Not sure I get what you mean. Who's responsile for your wife coming to her senses?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
A lot of what I believe I get from the rejoice ministries website. They quote a lot of verses and apply them to marriage restoration.
They tell you that you need to make changes, but they also tell you to not leave God out of the equation. They tell you to turn your heart to God and His will and make the changes that He would want you to make and then pray to him and rely on him to restore your marriage in his perfect timing. They tell you not to lose faith just because your eyes don't see what is going on on the othre side of the mountain.
One of the verses they use is for this is...
23 Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. 24 A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. 25 Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people’s hearts, and they will learn the truth. 26 Then they will come to their senses and escape from the devil’s trap. For they have been held captive by him to do whatever he wants. 2 Timothy 2:23-26
I only say that because of the adultery that my W is pursuing right now. But they tell people to pray that their WAS will come to their senses and quit living like this.
I hope that answers your question.
Kevin
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Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Changing it back now. It was just a test to see how it works.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
It is Friday and I anxiously await the miracles that will be performed this weekend by our Lord.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I believe He performs his miracles through us, and those around us. If you spend your time anxiously awaiting them, they aren't going to happen! If you want change, do the work on yourself to make it happen. If you want disappointment, keep waiting.
I am changing me. But I am also looking forward to the miracles the God will provide.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
OK then. Concrete actions. What are you doing this weekend, to improve you. Beyond anxiously awaiting.
I don't think I'll comment on them, I'd just like to see you put down in black and white real actions. Even little things. Or even just one. Not a "thinking about this", or "considering that".
One other thought. Being anxious, and waiting, are not actions or characteristics that are going to be attractive to you W. And truthfully, though I would not put words into His mouth, I'm not sure they are attractive to God.
So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Tonight I have a birthday dinner I am going to. Tomorrow I have all day with my kids. Sunday me and my kids are going to church. I will get a birthday cake for them since it is my birthday. Sunday night I have another birthday dinner to go to. Tomorrow D7 has dance class at noon. I haven't figured out what we are going to do for the rest of the day though I will come up with something.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
