my wife said she read the first two chapters of DR

[KiwiMan]

Hi texasbobby,

You situation sounds similar to mine, in the fact that they are getting the one way support from her side. The issue with that aswell is the fact that in the DR book, it says that often those closest people (Family etc)to the WAW are not the best as far as saving the marriage goes. They want to see the person happy and minimise the period of pain or guilt for them. That is the hardest thing in my head at the moment too.

Th hard thing is, reading the DR book and talking to alot of other level headed people the advice is all the same. Infact, everytime I read something on here or in the DR book it makes me think "If only she read this" or "How can I get her to read this without it coming from me or my side of the situation".

I have thought about things like asking her mum to suggest it to her, but then can you trust that the mother will not tell her you put her up to it"

Everything is so one sided, and its hard to detach.. but I had a big situation this morning that made me so proud of myself, even though I was boiling inside...

It does seem to get easier as the days go by, however all it takes is the smallest of events to kick the whole lot up in your face again.

Take care, I too am living in hope that it doesn't take long for the grass is greener situation to change.. but who knows.. its dealing with the fact that she may never realise, and thats where it comes down to you detaching and focusing on yourself, and the kids... Thats what hurts the most.

Good luck