Baby steps.... He just called. He's on his way to get the boys at daycare. I could tell that he wanted to chat, but after I told him what I needed to about the boys, I said 'ok, see you later'.

I keep wondering when he's going to change back to his 'alter-ego' (I actually refer to him with 2 different names when I'm talking to my friends) So far he's still the normal version of himself. He used to text me after he got them just to tell me his status, now he calls instead when he's on his way.. I also have to keep reminding myself what he is doing to me, because he is so 'nice' on the phone (and in person) all of the time now.

Tonight is my big test.. he usually tries to talk divorce/house stuff when I get home at night and he's getting the boys ready for bed.


Me: 36
H: 33
S1: 4
S2: 2
Together: 13 years
Married: 7 years
Bomb: May 09
Found out about affair: June 09
Moved out: June 09
He Filed: July 09
Moved in with OW: July 09