WOW. So she did not call me back as suspected. I called her at work and attempt to discuss visitation that was placed in the court order for this weekend. She says I did not provide her with enough notice to get her this weekend and she has already made plans.
It is kind of confusing b/c we to make up any time I miss for visitation when I have military training. Seems like quite a few weekends keep popping up and we have to make alternate arrangements for the visitation.
I think she does it on purpose, but it seems she is always attempting to cut the visitation short. For the month of Jul - Aug she wants to give me 3 overnights for the 6 we should have had. I try to work with her.
As we discuss the issue, she continually throws the dagers. Tells me I am not feeding her correctly. Do I do this with my oldest daughter's mom? Tell me I don't have a calendar in front of me when I do (she was trying to say she had her own calendar with dates marked on it). It is just a push and pull conversation. I try to validate her and say "I understand how you could feel that way". "I see your point". "I can see how you would think that". Seems like that calmed her down a little. But she gets so worked up, it is so difficult to talk with her.
I finally say I need to get back to work and maybe we could work this out a little later when we calm down a bit. She just hangs up on me. I gave it a few minutes and tried to come up with smoe type of viable solution to the matter. I tried to call back and when she answered and see it is me, she hangs up. WOW....
How much fun can we have? I have contacted my atty to see if she can facilitate. We were supposed to have court ordered counseling until the counselor deemed it was no longer needed. We went for eight sessions and the counselor advised we still needed to continue. She bascially said she was doing no more and her atty advised she did not have to. My atty was of the mindset that no amount of counseling would help her anyway. Not sure if I agree, but here we are.
Where do I go from here? Any laides out there that might be able to provide some insight? Input from others who may have been here? Tks!!!
