Thanks for the kind words but you are your own lifesaver. You truly are doing all of this work yourself and showing incredible strength and dignity along the way.
In the post before your last, you asked what you could do to engage your W more. I would suggest that based on what has been happening, you should not change a thing. All of this work on yourself and all of the changes you are making for yourself are all that anyone can ever do. Just keep doing that for you, for your kids...as for your wife, let her see your changes and gain her own sense of their authenticity in her own time. That's my two cents FWIW.
