When I brought the last of my XW's stuff to her apartment, included was alot of the 'momentos' from our marriage of 7 years. I felt that because it was her that left, she must carry the burden of sorting through our stuff. It was my way of letting go and moving on....she gets to carry the baggage now.
Not me my friend. I had to live with 'momentos' of X's first marriage randomly packed away in the house. I refused to let any of mine be that way, period. So, I set a deadline for X to come get anything she choses from the loot, and assure me it will not end up as such. Otherwise it will end up like our marriage, thrown away.
She apparently thought I was joking. And in the state of mind I was in at the time, it was very very bad to take anything I said lightly.
I kept one picture at the alter, a video of the day, and my champaign glass we would drink out of every anniversary, that is all.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
