Puppy, Sandi - could use your advise before I talk with my H tonight...
I mentioned to my H this morning that I wanted to talk tonight about us. I asked him this morning if he'd work on scheduling his IC appt and of course he hasn't. I told him I thought that he said that was something he needed to do. His response was that was a month ago (when all the drama was going on with his best friend and his wife).
I told him that I don't want to feel like I'm in limbo. I asked him if he could at least tell me how he thinks things are going. (We'd agreed to just let things be for awhile but now I'm ready to talk some more.) His response was "better."
So he agreed that we'd talk tonight. I'm not letting him off the hook. I really want him to go to individual counseling if he's not willing to go to marriage counseling right now. I think he still has issues he needs to work through. I said to him that I'm not willing just to keep going day after day pretending like everything is fine.
I've decided this is a boundary I need to set. I want to feel like we're BOTH working on putting the marriage back together. And though I understand we don't need to talk about the relationiship all the time. I don't think it's unreasonable to check-in every so often and see how things are going. I'd really feel better if we'd put together a consentual action plan. I want to feel like we're moving forward not just playing nice with one another hoping that since we're getting along that everything is OK.
Your thoughts? Could use your advise before I talk to him tonight.
