I think that through all of the GAL we learn what WE want in a R. SO, weather we remain in an R with spouse or begin a new R We need to tell them point blank what we want and the rest is up to them. If they can't give us what we need then we have decisions to make for us. We just need to remember that they can't read our minds and they may think what they are or are not doing is fine without that knowledge.
TELL him what you want, see what happens.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
