But Kevin, even Dobson says a line has to be drawn in the sand in the Tough Love book.
Dan broke the covenant/breached the contract a loooooong time ago. God doesn't want us to live in denial. He wants us to be able to see reality and turn to him for support.
Dan just said *he* is giving up. BBJ had hopes, Dan dashed them, again. He needs to wrestle with the devil by himself and learn to turn to God.

I'm sorry. I guess I am projecting because I have been confused by this same matter (standing or not) but Jesus said that we should love our neighbor as ourselves. I would never want my neighbor to go thru this hell. Sometimes the only way for someone to turn to God is to NOT be there is the crutch. BBJ has always been there.

Me-43
H-46
M 12 yrs 7/09
T 15
2 grown kids
bomb 7/05/07
H moved out 8/04/07
11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling
Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D
End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing